Does it ever get better

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Does it ever get better

Postby annwid on Wed Apr 04, 2007 8:01 pm

Nice site......... Im new here and just looking for some support!! By boyfriend plays that online game world of warcraft and since he has upgaded it to the cursades hes never there anymore. He never played like he does now 24/7 and I do understand that he likesto play it. Its comes down to him leaving our 6 week old daughter to play it esle where cause she was cutting in on his game time. It hurts so much. I cant get him to understand how much i need him expecually after having a baby. He hasnt been home in two weeks and only comes over for a booty call, gone when i open my eyes. Is it gonna get better. Does the need to play the game ever slow down?? Or am i just waiting for nothing to happen
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Postby -Mike- on Wed Apr 04, 2007 9:56 pm

Hi ann
Unfortunately, no one can tell you with any certainty that it’s going to get better or worse from here. I can tell you from my own experience that it’s not looking good. Once a gamer gets that involved it’s hard to get them to see anything outside of the game. Gaming is different for each individual. Some people will play it for a while, get bored with it and quit, while others seem to just keep playing more and more. My son recently quit on his own because he was bored with WoW. I’m a former gamer that finally quit. I can’t tell you exactly why I quit other than I started to get bored with the game and cut back on my playing. After cutting back I started to talk with my wife instead of just thinking she was attacking me and listen enough to start understanding some of the effects my gaming were having on my family and myself. To make a long story short, I didn’t make my exit from gaming in time and my wife is currently in process of filing for divorce and moving on with her life. I have since quit gaming completely and working to rebuild my life and move on as well. I wouldn’t even suggest that I know what you are going thru because I think it’s one of those things you would have to experience personally to really know and understand. There are a number of people here that have been where you are and will be glad to help in whatever way they can. If there is anything you would like to ask of a former gamer, there are a few of us around as well so ask away. If you need to let off a little steam that’s ok too. I wish you the best and hope things get better for you soon.

You might want to visit the Rehab room and start a post there.
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Postby Talhathier on Wed Apr 04, 2007 10:34 pm

You came to the right place, hun. Unfortunately we can't give deffinate answers, though there are many things which we have learned are for certain, and there are many here far more versed than I in saying such things.

I have a bit of experience on both sides of the field as it were, but as i said, it wasnt as serious as others' situations have been. What I will say is when it gets to the point you mentioned... things will not get easier thats for sure. I know it hurts, i lost a very dear friend to World of Warcraft... to be replaced by some stupid game, sure doesnt feel good.

I suggest you confide in a close friend whom you can trust. You're going to need as much help as you can get. Best of luck to you sweetie. Hope it turns out for the best.

And remember. You dont have to put yourself thru somethng unnecessarily. Sometimes it takes walking away from them for a while for them to even realize anything's wrong.
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