WoWer66 wrote:I for one think that this is a bunch of B.S. and please hear me out before you delete my post or spam me. Seriously? Widow?.
I will start by introducing myself. I have been a gamer for 20 years. I was a pro-gamer for the MLG for 3 years and made a good chunk of money doing so. I have been playing MMOs for about 14 years starting with Ultima Online back in the mid 90s. I have since playing EQ, EQ2, AC, AC2, WoW, SWG, AoC, CoH and more.
That being said.....GAMING IS NOT AN ADDICTION! I do it because I love it. Just like the guy who paints, or works on his car or goes golfing with his buddies. Why does gaming get so much crap? Because its "childish"? Get with the times. Men have always enjoyed their hobbies more than their wives/girlfriends/etc. Its just how it works. Ask any man you see on the street, I can almost promise that atleast 90% of them will tell you they enjoy their most loved hobby more than spending time with their "other".
Fellow gamers, I ask you to unite to fight this horrible insult calling us "addicts". We don't rush on to the computer to play WoW right when we get home from work because we are addicted....we do it because it keeps her off our back and we enjoy it.
Now...before you go insulting me or questioning my view or the weight of my opinions. I am 25 years of age, I am a high-honors high school grad who is a self-employed home owner. I also run my own business. I have been in and out of relationships but hey, havent we all?. And before I start a new relationship I always inform her that she will always come second to my gaming, no questions asked.
There is no rule book saying your partner needs to be first priority in your life. Thats just ignorant. These women who complain about not coming first in their man's life really need to calm down a bit. And also just maybe, take a look at themselves. Maybe, just maybe, the reason that he plays his videogames more than he spends time with you is because that they make him happier than you do. Maybe the problem isnt his....maybe its yours.
A die hard never-ending gamer.
JeepChick wrote:As a married, fulltime working mother of two.... and also a gamer... I totally support you and your frustration. I've browsed this site some in the past few months. I've found that they aren't talking about gamers... they are talking about addicts. You could take the word gaming or gamer and replace it with just about anything and it would still be an addition.
It is best to focus on the source of the addiction, not the outlet. I think that can be hard to do when you are in the thick of it and feeling second place to a bunch of bells&whistles. It's not the game, or the gaming... it's the lack of self control and personal issues that bring on the excess playing time.
Also, as a longtime female gamer (transitioned from PC to 360 console some years ago) and active member of the ECA, if any of you ever have any questions or would like my unique perspective as a wife and gamer, just let me know. We use gaming as a family activity in our house. Rock Band, Zombies, BattleShip, UNO... everyone gets pumped for Game Night!
WoWer66 wrote:It wasnt ramble or flaming. But what about the guy who golfs every morning? Or the guy who works 15 hours a day 6-7 days a week (A "working" man). No one gets as much flack about it as gamers.
WoWer66 wrote:There is nothing wrong with gaming. If you find it to be the most important thing to you, so be it. I know I do. And don't complain if the person you are with feels the same way I do. If you truly loved your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend/w.e. you would respect their desires and passions and love them for who they are/what they have become, not what you want them to be.
WoWer66 wrote:To the person who said I made a stupid comment for saying I would never put a girl over my games. Well that is your opinion. My videogames have been a part of my life for 20 years. And that will do nothing but continue to legnthen. There is not one single person who I could meet who could possibly match that.
WoWer66 wrote:Let me tell you a little story about a situation I encountered about 13 years ago. It was my best friends Dad that introduced me into Ultima Online back in 1995. He played about 10-15 hours a day. So did I and my friend. One morning before his wife (now ex) went to work she told him. Its me or the game, you decide. When she got home from work that day the door to his computer room was locked, her bags were packed and there was a note saying "Easy choice, have a nice life". To this day I applaud him for standing up for his own passions and what he believed in and not let another human being try to force him out of it. Ill say it like I said in my frist post. If you S/O is choosing a videogame (hell, any hobby) over you, then maybe its not them....maybe you are not providing the way you should resulting in them not desiring to spend any time with you any longer. (And women, [and I only say this because this is one of the things I have heard], if your husband/boyfriend picked up this gaming "addiction" right around the same time you "put on some weight" then STOP BLAMING HIM! You have your reason right there. I have heard that so many times on talk shows/forums. "Well it happened shortly after I put on some weight"....well....your brain works right? Think for a second. Its not hard. 1+1=2. His so called addiction if your replacement.
WoWer66 wrote:I will start by introducing myself. I have been a gamer for 20 years. I was a pro-gamer for the MLG for 3 years and made a good chunk of money doing so.
WoWer66 wrote:That being said.....GAMING IS NOT AN ADDICTION!
WoWer66 wrote:Why does gaming get so much crap?
WoWer66 wrote:Men have always enjoyed their hobbies more than their wives/girlfriends/etc. Its just how it works.
WoWer66 wrote:Ask any man you see on the street, I can almost promise that atleast 90% of them will tell you they enjoy their most loved hobby more than spending time with their "other".
WoWer66 wrote:Fellow gamers, I ask you to unite to fight this horrible insult calling us "addicts".
WoWer66 wrote:We don't rush on to the computer to play WoW right when we get home from work because we are addicted....we do it because it keeps her off our back and we enjoy it.
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