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Hiya guys

It's Tawnee from down under giving you a big widow welcome.

lol, I am not always so lovely and sweet but hey TGIF

Please continue to post here. This is a great community for everyone, widows, casual gamers, gamers and ex-gamers.

We may not always agree and we have had our "tiffs" but we usually sort things out.

For any gamers out there please be aware that we are NOT bitching about casual gaming, many members game. This is hard-core 80 hours a week stuff, negleting your kids stuff, getting sacked stuff.

Most widows have also tried many techniques including but not limited to the "nagging technique" the "sex technique" (a fun one) the "ignoring technique", The "gaming with them technique" and the "asking nicely technique".

If you know of any other "technique" please let us now, especially if it has worked.

Most members here love their gamers. Their gamers were funny, sexy, smart, caring and interesting partners until they got sucked into the web of hard-core gaming. They miss those partners and would like them back and they are going to try everything they can before they just wipe them off.

Anyway......have fun, keep posting and I think it is great that you are all here

Love Tawnee

the moderator with the mostest.

nicely done!

can we get the welcome sticky updated with that info? seems awfully relevant...

Why thank you kind Sir.

bump

Tawnee,

I respectfully ask your help. I've been trying to request access to the private forums, but I get an error message when I try to transmit the PM. Any other avenue for me?

Bigfoot, the PM goes through even though you get the funky message.

LOL, thank you TAWNEE

pmsl

Thats what I get for cybering you huh Krissy?

You know you liked it.


Oh and sorry for jumping the gun on that one. I didn't even think. I saw a question and responded. It's the Mod in me. lol

My apologies.

Thanks to both of you and my apologies to Faeril for the spam I generated trying to get it to go through.

To be honest, I've not tried but one, maybe two of the originally noted techniques, there a place here explaining them all?

These "techniques" are secret and only discussed during chat, especially the sex one

Ha Ha Ha Ha HA I have used every single one of those techniques and also the "no sex technique, the yelling technique, and the hiding the game/station technique (':lol')

I have too many computers, too many consoles, and too small a house for her to hide them on me. Fortunately there isn't a gaming issue at our house anymore.

Recently tried the "be patient" technique. Let him play almost 60 consecutive hours through the weekend. I take that back... he stopped twice to eat when his brothers signed off. It didn't help. In fact, he gained momentum.

Then I tried the "burst into tears and pour my heart out" technique. This was not intentional. It was something that erupted and I couldn't control. I was constructive and used lots of "It breaks my heart when you...." type of dialog. It seems to be helping a little. At least there is an awareness. Last night, he only played 4 hours or so after work.

Is it weird that I almost consider "WoW" to be his girlfriend....and I am the jealous wife?

Annie

I think the patience technique is one of the worst because then there is an implied lenience that seems to make it worse because they are like "oh they dont care today" and then when you have the talk after they tend to not understand why you did not say something while they were playing.

FarleySC wrote:I have too many computers, too many consoles, and too small a house for her to hide them on me. Fortunately there isn't a gaming issue at our house anymore.

Thats what you think! I took them to work, his parents house my parents house and hid little parts like the power cord or the controllers in the house. the problem with the little parts one is that it is easy to go out and buy parts like power cords and controllers but it can get expensive if you try enough!

Hi everyone,

when im attempting to get into forums i keep getting a message saying im not authorised to do so....am i being stupid, do i need to go somewhere else on the site 1st to gain permission????
I tried the 'its me or the game' (wow) technique and it worked 4 a while, he quit for 3months but now hes been dragged back into it and i dont know what to do!!
Have any of you tried the parental control application?! Awful though it is to have to do that to a partner you can put a limit on how long he can play for each week and the account will not allow you to go over this limit!! Ive told him thats what comes next!!

Any advice welcome im running out of ideas and patience, thanks!

Aimz107

Hi Aimz,

My ex would not let me put parental controls on him and yet he wanted me to act like his parent and wash his clothes, pay his bills, make sure he got to work on time etc etc.

Well i now have a problem with those controls anyway! I wanted to be able to put a weekly limit on the amount of hours he can play, but it cant be done. Apparently the only way you can limit it, is to put in the specific hours on each day, and thats no good! He works shifts and so it just wouldnt be possible to know exact times of the day!
Does anyone know anything about this, or a way you can put a time limit on!?

Im so close to walking out, i dont know how much of this i can take. Ive heard enough 'but its my hobby and you should support it'. Hobbies do not take up that much of your time, hobbies people may do a couple of times a week for a couple of hours, not every spare minute (and some not so spare minutes!!)

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Personally I'm not for the parental control thing, as it takes responsability aways from the gamer for their bad behavior.
A total ban for 3 weeks worked to bring me back to real life. I even realised that I was not that missed ingame. Good wake up call:D

I definitely have tried a few techniques! I lost my husband to warcraft almost 3 years ago and have been sticking around because I have no common sense/ courage to leave..... not the point. Here is what I've tried:

Sex Technique:
I took stripping lessons! After the first class where we learned a routine I had a couple of drinks afterwards, came home and got ready to show him my moves and he was playing warcraft, he couldn't be distracted, and he got really irritated that I wouldn't just go away. After that I stopped trying, I was 23 at the time.

Nagging:
Ya, that works sometimes, especially when something is really important. But if I give him something to complain about he bitches to the people he's playing with about me. I don't need to women he spends more time with everyday hearing that I'm some nagging b*tch.

Super-Fun:
Making super fun plans with friends so he'll want to go out! Sounds great right! NOPE! He'll either be miserable the whole time or find a reason not to go. Once time he even pretended to be asleep so I would leave and he could play.

Injury:
Now I didn't do this on purpose but I did fall down the stairs once while he was playing warcraft. I broke my toe and banged myself up good, that distracted him and i had his attention for a couple of hours! I do sometimes slip and fall or lightly injure myself because he'll come to my aid. Desparate? Pathetic? Stupid? yes. yes. yes.

Hi to everyone. My husband started playing WOW about seven months ago, and it has completely changed him. He makes me feel like a crazy nagging bitch, and says that all I do is try to "take away everything he loves" because I'm jealous. But reading some of these posts makes me realize I'm not as crazy as he wants me to believe. He plays about 70-80 hours a week, and refuses to get a job. I'm about to divorce him. Its just really nice to see I'm not alone. Thanks!

it's crazy, isn't it? 80 hours is like having two full-time jobs.

Hi everyone. I found this site by chance tonight when I googled, "My husband is addicted to WoW". He got on WoW today at 1:30pm and played until 5:40pm (only stopping because it was dinner time...which I cooked). He got back on at 6:30pm and it's now 4:24am and he is still going strong....
I am so happy to have found that there are sooo many other people out there in the same position as me...that I am not crazy (which my husband would have me believe).