First of all I would like to say I play Ultima online, about 10-12 hours a day. I have played this for for the past 10-12 years. I have a very happy life, and am a professional drummer. I am however still living with my family, and i'm 27 years old. But I will make a living no matter what, I always have, and always will. I play So much Ultima Online, I live my real life the way I would live it in the game.

I am constantly thinking and doing things to emulate how I would do them in the game. I am fully obsorbed into the world of Ultima. Nothing any of the 1000s of people on this earth say, will ever change that.

I'm totaly happy living my life the way I do, btw, my girlfriend and I both Love the game, and play it extensivly. (also wow somtimes).

I have played over 100 MMORPGs, and I am not stopping. Maybe I'll be the guy who lived his entire life inside a roleplaying game, and therefor now I'm famous, therefor my band gets famous due to that..Who knows.

I've just always seen that people in the past always get famous for doing one thing for an extended amount of time, or in a very extreme way.

I think gaming is honestly the future of everything we do. Electronics will eventualy work it self out, so when you go to the store, you will press a button, and go there, press another button, and complete your shopping experience in a virtual world. Then youll recieve the items you bought in your real home. (through item teleportation or something simular).

By the time all these scientists come up with ways to manipulate and send stuff like that across distances, we can basicly do anything.

Anyways just a few of my thoughts.

-Toast

*Takes Mod hat off*

So, you're 27, live at home with Mummy and Daddy and your main goal in life is to become famous for spending the most time in a game?

And you say there is nothing wrong about gaming too much

Seriously, what about world peace, a cure for Cancer, fix body image issues so that we stop seeing girls with lollipop heads?

The changes in shopping and electronics in the world is so that we get more time to enjoy our real life. So we don't have to spend 2 hours shopping and instead spend that time with our families.

I don't want to live in the Matrix. I want to physically touch my son's face and feel the sand between my toes. This is your life we are talking about. You only get one and you want to spend it locked up in a room watching through a box. I can look at a picture of the beach but that is not even remotely as enjoyable as smelling the sea, hearing the seagulls, the splash of water against my legs, the sun warming my skin.

Real life is so lovely. Try not to miss out on it.

Dude, I agree that video games are fun, and some even tend to kinda suck you into them... but I'm 28, and I have my own place, a wife, a new car, and and full time job. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with living with your mom, but its not something I would be openly writing about. Especially on a forum that focuses on relationships that suffer due to excessive gaming.

A little advice: get a job bro, at least, you're too old to have momma cooking your breakfast.

Good luck with the band... rock on.

your right, i have a job

thnx for the concern though

u guys took that better than i thought you would..

I guess its all a matter of personal taste. I love my virtual worlds

the beach is cold and sandy =[ sea gulls are dirty and annoying xD

i dunno i would perfer virtual worlds with dragons n things that i Dont see irl
but thats just me.

Everyone has their tastes. I like airsoft military simulation.. It's pretending to kill people in a squad based tactical simulation, kinda like COD Modern Warfare, but with real people and airsoft guns. Some people think thats weird. So it's understandable.

Does your girlfriend play as much as you do?

Well as rRashinToast girlfriend irl I can say no I dont play as much as he does I have to have the real JOB but thats all good because I didnt play games before I met him and I didnt even care for them but playing with him has brought us closer I wouldnt change our life together for anything. I love the beach Im a beach baby not a snow bunny but at the same time playing together allows us other ways of communitcating with each other, and friends and family. I would love for him to have a regular job but life on the road with a band is great too.

yep thats mah baby ^.^

hehe i love my band, i wouldnt give it or my gf up for the universe :D

.. or the game

have a great day guys look forward to readin more.. cya.

Sounds like you guys really love each other, and I'm glad to hear that you make it work. Thats rare.
Bye Bye!

I used to game with my husband because it gave us something to do together but when I started to realize that it was ALL we did together, it got old. I started to realize that I had given up the things that I liked for the thing that he liked. I spent time in his world but he didn't reciprocate and do the things that I found fun. It was completely one-sided. I finally gave up gaming, hoping he would look for alternate ways to bond with me and spend time with me. I'm still waiting though.

I've always enjoyed games. I have 75+ Genesis game. I spent 5 years playing Starcraft. But after serving a Mormon mission I recognized the importance to live a real life. I promised myself that I wouldn't play games until I was married, to give myself some self control. Now I am married and my wife and I own a Wii. We love playing those Lego games together. I still play games but steer clear of addictive games. I will not be getting Starcraft 2, even though I really really want to. I love my wife too much. We have a great life. We read to each other every day.

In several more years I will be getting a law degree. If I was still addicted to Starcraft all of this would not have been possible.

I know you like your life. I've lived that life as well. But now I am an adult.

I hope children are not in you guys' future.

I used to game with my husband because it gave us something to do together but when I started to realize that it was ALL we did together, it got old. Especially on a forum that focuses on relationships that suffer due to excessive gaming.

I just read your post and I just had to post a response to your pathetic view of your life and obvious attempt to get a response from those of us who came to this site for help. I will give you the response you want..

Your reasoning for posting on the website was to show all of us that you are so happy with your life that we must be fools for having difficulties in ours because of gaming. Are you serious? People come to this site because they have difficulties with a partner who is letting their life be consumed by gaming. Affecting their job, children, relationship, and responsibilities.(None of which you have) ROCK ON !!!

Congratulations, you found a great girl with a job who enjoys gaming. How long do you really think your girlfriend is going to stick around with a soon to be 30 year old living with his mommy and daddy? lol Come on now... So, exactly what do you offer anyone, including yourself, as a future? Let me guess, 10 to 15 year old car just big enough for your drum set, a new computer with high speed internet (mom and dad pay for)just so you can be the MOST AWESOME gamer, $150 maybe $200 in cash in the bank, and a hand me down bedroom filled with you aunts old furniture and beer signs and posters. I am a little older and I know the terminology has changed but we used to call guys like you LOOSERS.

So you know, I am a music teacher and an excellent drummer and I know how competitive the music industry is and unless you get that 1 in a million lucky break, you will continue to play at bars, beer festivals, and house parties for the rest of your life. Some of my best friends from college who received bachelors and masters degrees in music performance still haven't made it yet and I can guarantee they are considerably more talented than you. They practice and perform 4-6 hours a day rather than gaming. More guessing: You are probably in a band that has some dark sounding name like DEATH GREY or NIGHT SCREAM written in a Goth font, you've put together a CD or two that you and your band members pulled together your pennies to produce and you do your best to sell them for $10 each at shows out of your tour bus that is an old hand-me-down minivan. GRATS!! However, while you are playing games, why not take classes? If you enjoy music then get a music degree and teach while you are waiting for that big break. I make $20 to $25 for the 30 minute lessons I teach. The classes you take will improve your skills and make you an even better drummer and allow you a fall back if you never make MTV.

Sorry for being so vile in my response but I hoped to make a point with you. Take an honest look at your life... if you are really that happy then why in the hell did you post on here? Because you aren't and you know it.

Good luck with the band DUDE!!!!

Hey Johnathon,

There really is nothing we can say.

My gamer and I broke up 3 1/2 yrs ago (woot!) and he got in touch with me last week for some advice.

He is now 29, flat shares with 2 other people, they are also all getting evicted, he doesn't have a car anymore and he never had his liscense, he has put on weight and his skin has broken out, he has an 18 month old child that he never sees and can only contribute $20 per fortnight to his care.

In the same time frame I have increased my pay (over 50k and car), moved to a nicer home, support my 2 kids (1 is in private school still, the other finished), have gone on 2 holidays with the kids, have 2 cars and am happily single.

Guess gaming all the time worked out for him.....

Hey Tawnee,
Sounds like my life...

My EX and I broke up two years ago this summer and my life is considerably better also. During this time I have focused on doing things with my kids and for myself, seeing and doing things I could have only dreamed of being with her. Saving money, working out and cycling 6 days a week, paying bills, buying assets, starting a small home business and taking trips accross the country and out of it this summer. Life is good!!

My EX is soon to be 32, 4 kids(one is mine), living with her WOW 21yr old gamer boyfriend who works part time stocking shelves and another gamer who moved accross the country to "hang" with them and play. The house is absolutly filthy with 2 dogs and 5 cats. She actually has a job managing now but barely makes bills with my child support as the guys don't help much financially... She still makes WOW her priority.

I think that I have actually gained a more determined sense of focus since I got out of that gaming life and away from my ex.

I dont think a gaming life is going to work out for her either...

the OP sounds alot like someone related to me. he isnt as old, but works, lives with his parents, and has lost his partners to date because of his gamer addiction. i dont see it getting any better anytime soon. its like because he lost girls to the addiction he decided that women are just unreliable, so he sticks with games O_o. his parents are going nuts wanting him to move out on his own but his job isnt enough pay to afford to do so without a roomate or something.